The person with the hermit vocation has to find ways of dealing with the depression engendered by ongoing loneliness and isolation. This is so well known that there is even a special name for it – acedia. Just because hermits have to learn to cope with depression, however, does not mean that depressives should start lining up for the hermitage, as if it was a clinic! Au contraire, the hermit needs to be naturally optimistic, and have a good track record of digging themselves out of holes which would defeat less hardy souls. Note the words ‘digging themselves out.’
There has to be an internal mechanism, independent of others, which kicks in in times of depression. If, in times of depression, you regularly need others to push you through, the hermit life will open you up to all the dangers of depression and you will not be able to find a way out. In that case, you need to find your path in more supportive circumstances, whether in religious community or in the world, or you will almost inevitably lose your mental balance.
So -what is the basis of this internal mechanism for digging oneself out of depression? Quite simply, it is faith – faith of a particular kind. It is a belief that God wills to create change in the most negative situation and that one’s job as a hermit, is to find that ‘point of change’ – that avenue of hope – which is somewhere, even if it is totally hidden from one’s consciousness for many years. “Keep your heart in hell and despair not” said staretz Silouan.
So the place of a hermit’s inner stability must firstly be a place where no false hopes exist, and the ongoing experience of living without hope – often in the depths of depression – does not affect your core. It is akin to the experience felt by many prisoners in solitary confinement. At the same time, living without hope must not become an excuse for sourness. The main antidote to sourness lies in cultivating the ability to enjoy the small things of life – a robin bowing as you put the birdfeed out (yes! robins do bow!), the amazing dawn colours of water in puddles on tarmac and a host of small personal pleasures like washing up!
A second antidote to sourness lies in fidelity to your regular programme of Divine Office and prayer. Keep the space even if you cannot discharge your duties. If all you can do is stare at the words of the psalm but not say them because they hurt too much, offer the wordless agony to God, and when you have done all your soul can stand, work on a related discipline, such as supplementary reading or go for a walk and look for beauty. You have to use any means you can to orientate your soul into a friendly disposition towards life, the universe, and it!
If you normally sing as part of your office, then sing a section – maybe just one antiphon or do vocalese ( voice training). Concentrate on enjoying the voice for it’s own sake – as a kind of ‘recreation within prayer time’ to re-invigorate your enjoyment of singing the office. Gradually, among good days and bad days, the joy will occasionally return – but you have to keep building the bridges yourself in your own soul.
More often than not, you just sit, stand, walk or work through the day, trying again and again to pounce on chinks of light which will enable God to enter the vast abyss of depression – and hope that by doing your bit you will somehow find a chink in the armour of collective depression, which enshrouds the human soul, and by pioneering a ‘path out of the dungeon’ help others – on an invisible level ( which after all, is no more unbelievable than the internet) – to also find a ray of hope.
You have to maintain that inner attitude of belief that ‘conversion’ – change is possible, even when your heart is dead and hopeless, and all outer circumstances entrench that hopelessness. This requires a profound capacity to cope with a seemingly irreconcilable paradox. The whole of the Christian mystery is a training for this. The whole Christian mystery centres on the fact that the eternally perfect and immortal God becomes – over the course of thirty years – a dead corpse and, by an incomprehensible mystery, lives again. The whole secret of the hermit life is encapsulated in that corpse of God.
The mystery of the hermit is to find the rebirth in death. In a sense, the hermit walks into death with open eyes and that is why, when the hermit has undergone his passion, his prayer in solitude – or his teaching to the world ( as in the case of a Seraphim or Merton) – truly changes things for others.